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Slowing Down the Passage of Time
What happens to the life waiting to be lived in the present when most or all of our focus is on the future or the past? Trying to live our future lives before they get here is a common pitfall, as is spending large chunks of time focused on the life behind us, the life we’ve already lived. This is particularly ironic considering most of feel we d…
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What Is Normal?
At first glance, the idea of what constitutes “normal” seems harmless enough. The state of “normal” doesn’t exist, except as a comparative tool which attempts to compare two things that can’t be compared. Judging someone as normal only tells you how closely they coincide with your standards, with your taste, with you at your most superficial leve…
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Election Thoughts - Why We Need to KNOW Someone
We’ll vote for someone we don’t like as long as we are able to feel we know him or her, but we’re less likely to vote for someone we happen to like who holds us at too great a distance.
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Self-Knowledge
Self-knowledge won’t yield to language, no matter how much we want it to. The tendency to equate understanding to language works just fine in some applications. Language is essentially reductive, and reducing your essence or my essence by attempting to describe it renders it into something it’s not. Not just less than it is: something it’s not. …
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Expecting to Receive Without First Having Given
Whether we’re talking about love, respect, acceptance, forgiveness or any thing else, you can’t expect to get from someone else what you haven’t already given. This becomes beautifully evident when you try it. By modeling the behavior you’d like to get in return, the likelihood of your being regarded and treated in the same manner is substantially …
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Deferred Possibility
When we talk about having a sense of possibility, or having lost that sense, the possibility we’re referring to is likely to reside in the future, or more correctly, in our mental projections of what we’d like our future to be. In other words, it’s a sense of deferred possibility. It’s well and good to have plans and expectations for the future, bu…
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